Why Do We Feel Such Deep Love for Someone Who Isn’t Good for Us?

It’s a painful question, isn’t it? You know this person isn’t showing up for you in the way you deserve, yet the love, the attachment, the pull—it’s all so strong.

So what are we supposed to do with this love we can’t seem to turn off?

And why is it even there in the first place?

While on the surface, this deep love for someone who isn’t good for us may seem illogical, there are often deeper subconscious reasons at play.

Let’s explore where this kind of love might come from and how to begin untangling it.

Love as a Reflection of Unhealed Parts of Ourselves

Sometimes, the deep love we feel for someone who isn’t good for us is not about them—it’s about us.

Here’s What’s Happening:

• Parts of us that feel unhealed or unmet are reaching out for attention.

• This love is often tied to longing—not for the person themselves, but for something we didn’t fully receive earlier in life.

For Example:

• If we grew up in an environment where love felt conditional, distant, or unreliable, that dynamic can feel “normal” to our nervous system.

• Being drawn to someone who mirrors that dynamic might feel like love, but it’s actually our inner child trying to “fix” the past by seeking love from someone similar.

The Subconscious Beliefs Driving This Love

Deep in the subconscious, we may carry beliefs that keep us tied to someone who isn’t good for us.

Common Beliefs Include:

• “If I can make them love me, then I’ll finally feel worthy.”

• “If I can heal this relationship, I’ll heal myself.”

Why This Happens:

• These beliefs often stem from unhealed wounds of not feeling enough or being abandoned.

• The pain of rejection from this person activates those old wounds, and our “love” for them becomes tied to trying to soothe that pain.

Energetic Imprints and Emotional Ties

We can also carry energetic imprints from past relationships or experiences, especially when there’s unresolved emotion.

What This Feels Like:

• These energetic imprints tether us to someone, making it feel nearly impossible to let go—even when we know the relationship is unhealthy.

• It creates a sensation that feels a lot like love but is actually unresolved energy and emotion.

Letting Go Feels Like Losing a Part of Ourselves:

• Letting go of someone can feel like letting go of a part of ourselves, especially if the relationship became entangled with our sense of identity.

• The fear of emptiness or uncertainty often keeps us clinging to what’s familiar, even if it’s painful.

How to Untangle This Love and Reclaim Your Power

If you find yourself stuck in deep love for someone who isn’t good for you, healing is possible.

✨ This is where energy healing can help.

Here’s How Energy Healing Supports Your Healing Journey:

• Release Energetic Ties: Clear the energetic imprints and emotional baggage that keep you tethered to this person.

• Heal the Inner Child: Bring love and compassion to the unhealed parts of you that are seeking connection and validation.

• Rebuild Your Sense of Self: Reconnect with your inner power and worthiness so you can move forward with clarity, peace, and strength.

The Result:
You’ll begin to untangle your love for them from your love for yourself, creating space for real, healthy love to enter your life.

Ready to Break Free From Unhealthy Attachments?

If you’re ready to release the pain, patterns, and attachments keeping you stuck in unfulfilling love, I’m here to help.

In my 1:1 energy healing sessions, we’ll work together to:

• Release the energetic ties keeping you stuck.

• Heal subconscious beliefs about love and worthiness.

• Empower you to move forward into healthy, fulfilling love with clarity and confidence.

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