How to Deal with the Pain of Going No Contact with an Ex

Jan 30

You hit the “block” button and feel an initial surge of strength and optimism.

But then it hits you—the wave of pain that comes with knowing this relationship is truly over.

Even when we know going no contact is the best choice for our well-being, it can still be one of the hardest emotional steps to take.

The longing, sadness, anger, or even regret can creep in, tempting us to reach for that unblock button just to ease the pain.

If you’re determined to stay true to yourself and maintain no contact with someone who hurt you, here are some strategies to help you move through the emotional challenges that arise.

Step 1: Acknowledge Your Feelings

Going no contact is often portrayed as empowering—and while it is, it can also bring up heavy emotions.

What You Might Feel:

Anger or frustration.
Sadness or grief over the end of the relationship.
Longing for the good moments or who you hoped they would be.

Why This Matters:
All these feelings are valid. Allowing yourself to feel them without judgment is a critical part of the healing process.

Step 2: Create a Support Network

When the temptation to reach out feels overwhelming, having a support system in place can make all the difference.

How to Build Your Support System:

Journal: Write down your thoughts and emotions to process them in a safe space.
Talk to Trusted Friends: Share your feelings with people who support your decision to go no contact.
Work With a Professional: A therapist or energy healer can guide you through this difficult time and help you stay on track.

Why This Matters:
Expressing your emotions and receiving validation from others can help you resist the urge to reconnect with your ex.

Step 3: Focus on You and What You Need

Shifting your focus back to yourself is essential when you’re navigating the pain of no contact.

Ask Yourself:

“What do I need right now?”

Examples of Self-Care:

Rest when your body feels tired.
Take a walk in nature to reset your mind.
Enjoy a nourishing meal or indulge in a small treat.
Allow yourself to cry when emotions feel overwhelming.

Why This Matters:
Listening to your body and heart’s needs helps you rebuild trust with yourself and reinforces the idea that you are worthy of care and attention.

Step 4: Set Small, Loving Intentions

Healing is a process that happens one small step at a time.

Daily Intentions to Try:

Do one small thing each day that reminds you of your strength (e.g., go for a run, finish a creative project, or simply breathe deeply).
Celebrate tiny wins, like making it through another day without reaching out.
Remind yourself that you’re rebuilding your life one moment at a time.

Why This Matters:
These small actions help you regain a sense of control and show you that you can persevere through even the toughest emotions.

When the Emotional Weight Feels Too Heavy

If the pain of no contact feels unbearable, it may be a sign that your body and energy field are holding onto more than just the breakup itself.

What’s Keeping You Stuck:

Old patterns from past relationships.
Lingering emotional attachments to your ex.
Suppressed emotions that haven’t been fully processed.

✨ This is where energy healing can help.

How Energy Healing Supports Your No Contact Journey

Through energy healing, we can:

Release Emotional Energies: Let go of the lingering pain and sadness tied to your ex.
Clear Stuck Patterns: Break free from cycles of attachment or self-sabotage.
Reconnect With Inner Strength: Tap into your resilience and power to stay no contact for good.

Imagine This:
Feeling lighter, grounded, and free from the emotional pull of your past relationship. With the right support, this is possible.