Are We Sabotaging Our Relationship, or Are We Pushing Them Away for a Reason?

You’re diving deeper into your new relationship, but at the same time, there’s this persistent urge to pull back—or maybe even run.

You can’t help but wonder:

• “Is this my gut trying to warn me that something’s wrong?”

• “Or am I sabotaging a good thing because of my own fears?”

This is one of the most confusing and painful questions we can ask ourselves.

How do we tell the difference between self-sabotage driven by fear and our inner wisdom nudging us toward a deeper truth?

Let’s explore this together.

What Is Sabotage, Really?

The parts of us that “sabotage” relationships aren’t here to hurt us. They’re trying to protect us.

Here’s How It Works:

• When there are real red flags or warning signs, these protective parts help us by pushing us to pay attention or leave.

• But sometimes, they’re a little confused or overactive, working off outdated patterns from past pain.

Instead of seeing these parts as obstacles, we can approach them with compassion and curiosity to understand what’s really going on.

Why Do We Push People Away?

Sometimes, the urge to run comes from deep wounds or fears that make it hard to fully let love in.

What This Might Look Like:

• Fear of intimacy or vulnerability creating a sense of discomfort as the relationship deepens.

• Unresolved past experiences shaping how we view connection and trust.

How to Tell If It’s Sabotage or Intuition

One of the best ways to get clarity is to slow down and get curious about your emotions.

Start With These Questions:
1️⃣ “What am I feeling right now?”

• Fear, guilt, shame, or dread can indicate past wounds surfacing.

• A quieter, persistent discomfort might be your intuition signaling that something isn’t aligned.

Key Insight:

• Fear often feels loud, panicky, and overwhelming.

• Intuition feels calm and steady, even if it’s uncomfortable.

Notice Your Patterns

Reflecting on your past relationships can reveal important clues.

Ask Yourself:

• “Do I tend to pull away whenever things get serious?”

  • If yes, this could be a self-sabotaging pattern rooted in fear of intimacy or vulnerability.

  • It might be worth exploring why connection feels scary, even when it’s healthy.

• “Do I only feel uneasy with this particular person?”

  • If your discomfort feels unique to this relationship, it could be your intuition telling you that something isn’t right.

Why This Matters:
Recognizing patterns can help you determine whether the urge to run is based on unresolved fears or a genuine misalignment with your partner.

You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone

When fear and intuition are tangled, it can feel impossible to know what’s real. That’s where energy healing can help.

✨ How Energy Healing Supports Clarity in Relationships:

• Reconnect with your deeper self to understand whether fear or intuition is driving your feelings.

• Release stuck energies and subconscious patterns keeping you confused or stuck in old cycles.

• Clear emotional baggage so you can approach your relationship with clarity, strength, and trust in yourself.

Imagine This:
No more second-guessing or spinning in confusion—just clarity and confidence in your decisions.

Ready to Gain Clarity and Confidence in Your Relationship?

If you’re ready to untangle fear from intuition and make choices from a place of inner strength, I’m here to help.

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