How I Loved Again After Divorce and Narcissistic Abuse

I didn’t just magically pop into a healthy relationship after going through a painful divorce and then an abusive relationship shortly after.

There were critical steps I took that I truly believe made all the difference in allowing me to heal and find the love I have now. If I hadn’t done these things, I don’t think I’d be in the healthy, loving relationship I’m in today.

If you’re wondering how to open your heart again after toxic relationships, here’s what worked for me:

1️⃣ I Blocked My Exes (Even Though I Felt Guilty)

Blocking my exes wasn’t about being petty—it was about protecting my healing. I needed emotional space so I could fully detach from them and be available for something new.

Guilt showed up, but I reminded myself: I’m not responsible for their feelings. I’m responsible for my peace.

2️⃣ I Took a Break from Dating for Over a Year

I knew I needed time to focus on myself. I used that space to heal, rebuild my self-worth, and get super clear on the kind of partner I truly wanted.

If we don’t take the time to reflect and heal, we risk repeating the same patterns with different people.

3️⃣ I Learned What Healthy Love Actually Looks Like

Since I had never truly experienced secure, healthy love before, I had to study it. I needed to understand what a stable, emotionally safe relationship looked like so I could recognize it when I found it.

Because here’s the truth: In order to find it, you have to know what it is.

4️⃣ I Used Energy Healing to Release Emotional Baggage

Healing isn’t just about understanding our patterns—it’s about releasing the pain that keeps us stuck. I used energy healing to clear the wounds from my past and rewire the negative beliefs that told me I wasn’t worthy of love.

This is the work I now do with my clients—because it changed everything for me.

5️⃣ I Stopped Obsessing Over Attachment Theory and Narcissism

Learning about attachment styles and narcissistic abuse was helpful at first, but eventually, it became a way of obsessing over my exes.

I realized that constantly analyzing them was keeping me emotionally tied to the past. Instead, I focused on healing myself.

6️⃣ I Started Engaging with the World Again

The hurt part of me wanted to stay closed off. It felt safer to withdraw, to avoid trusting anyone again. But I knew healing meant opening up—not just to dating, but to life.

I started connecting with people again. Finding joy. Saying yes to new experiences. And as I opened up, I found myself ready for real love.

You Can Find Love Again, Too

Healing after narcissistic abuse isn’t about waiting for time to pass—it’s about taking intentional steps to heal your heart.

If you’re ready to break free from the pain of the past and open yourself to the love you truly deserve, I can help.

In my 1:1 Energy Healing Sessions, we help you release the energies and subconscious blocks holding you back from finding real love after painful relationships.

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