How I Finally Let Go of Someone I Loved—Who Didn’t Love Me Back

I thought it was love.

The way I cared so deeply.
The way I saw the good in them when no one else did.
The way I held onto hope that one day, they’d realize what we had was special.

I could feel their pain on the rare occasions they shared it with me. I knew there was a good heart inside.

So I stayed. I waited. I poured every ounce of love into them, hoping one day, it would be enough.

But here’s what I didn’t realize at the time…

That wasn’t love. It was attachment.

The Difference Between Love & Attachment

When you’re in deep attachment, your emotions feel all-consuming.

You think it’s because the love is real—but it’s actually fear.

Attachment feels like:

• Hoping they’ll finally see your worth.

• Excusing their behavior because of their past pain.

• Giving and giving, while receiving the bare minimum in return.

• Feeling like you can’t let go, even when they hurt you.

Real love feels like:

• Mutual care and respect.

• Knowing you’re valued without having to prove yourself.

• Feeling safe, seen, and emotionally supported.

• Giving and receiving equally—not just one-sided effort.

When someone treats you badly, it’s not love. Love includes kindness, respect, and care from both people.

How I Finally Let Go

Letting go was definitely not easy.

I had to do the one thing I’d been avoiding for years…

stop chasing unavailable love and sit with my pain from the past I’d been trying to outrun

I had to stop:
❌ Making excuses for their behavior because of their trauma
❌ Waiting and hoping for them to change.
❌ Pouring my love into someone who wouldn’t pour it back into me.

And I had to start:
✅ Giving all that love back to myself.
✅ Facing the loneliness I’d been running from and healing the subconscious root of the patterns that kept me in dynamics like this
✅ Learning that I was never unlovable—I was just giving my love to the wrong person.

The pain didn’t go away overnight. 

At first, it actually got worse. But then, slowly, something shifted.

I started to feel peace.
I stopped looking at my phone, waiting for them to realize what they lost.

I stopped craving the emotional highs and lows.

I finally understood that real love isn’t about getting someone to love us—it’s about accepting the love that’s already there.

If you’re struggling to let go of a person who doesn’t love you back, I know how hard it is.

I know that staying can feel easier than facing the loneliness and pain you’ve been trying to outrun. 

But I also know from experience that when you do leave and take the courageous step to face what’s within…

It’s worth every single second of that challenge.

Because it changes everything.

The most helpful step I took on my healing journey was using energy healing to release the wounds from my past-

The negative beliefs and energies keeping me stuck trying to get love from someone who couldn’t love me back.

I now use that same energy healing to help you rewire your subconscious for real love.

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