Does It Hurt So Bad When It Ends Because It Was Real Love?

You’re crying day in and day out for a person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with.

Forget that it wasn’t even that great of a relationship and that many of your needs weren’t being met.

The pain of this loss hits so deep, it feels like you’ve lost the love of your life.

It’s completely understandable to think that because the pain is so intense, it must mean the love was just as deep.

But that’s not the case.

We feel deep pain after a breakup for many reasons, especially if the relationship wasn’t healthy and our basic needs weren’t met.

But the amount of pain you feel doesn't mean the love was real.

It doesn’t mean you made a mistake (if you ended the relationship).

And it doesn’t mean you should try to get them back.

Pain Doesn't Equal Real Love

The intensity of the pain we feel after a breakup has no correlation to how much love was present.

I’ve felt the deepest heartbreak in a relationship where there was barely any real love at all.

Pain doesn’t mean the relationship was meant to last.

What pain tells us is a wound has been opened—nothing more.

There’s a loss we’re processing.

And if the relationship subconsciously reminded you of painful experiences from your past, losing this person can feel like the greatest tragedy ever.

But here’s the shift to remember:

Pain after a breakup also means there’s the potential for healing and transformation.

You’re no longer with someone who couldn’t meet your needs.

Now, you have the space to heal what’s present within you and make a different, healthier choice next time.

Pain = An Opportunity for Change

Heartbreak isn’t just about the loss of a relationship; it’s a mirror reflecting where healing is needed.

And if you feel called to use the pain of this breakup as a catalyst for your transformation, I’ve got you.

I use powerful energy healing to rewire the subconscious and clear the negative beliefs and emotional blocks keeping you in cycles of heartbreak and pain.

Through this work, you can move forward with:
Peace instead of longing.
Confidence instead of self-doubt.
Self-love instead of chasing unavailable love.
The deep belief that real love is out there for you.

If you’re ready to move through this breakup with clarity and inner strength, I can help.

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