Why I Didn’t Feel a Spark When I Met My Partner (and Why That Was a Good Thing)

When I met my husband for the first time in early 2020—after a few weeks of dating over video chat during the lockdown—it didn’t feel like a movie.

There was no overwhelming spark. No electric jolt of recognition. No dramatic feeling of “this is it.”

And for a long time, I questioned it. I thought maybe it meant something was missing. Maybe I didn’t love him enough. Maybe I was settling.

But here’s what I didn’t realize then:

I wasn’t lacking chemistry. I was lacking the addiction.

The Spark Was Never What I Thought It Was

For most of my life, I carried something in my energy field I now know as love addiction energy.

It’s subtle but powerful—this energetic signature that craves the emotional rollercoaster. The intoxicating spark. The longing. The chasing. The addictive push-pull of toxic love.

I also carried love-at-first-sight energy—that sudden, overwhelming “this is my person” feeling that felt cosmic… but wasn’t grounded.

Why It Feels So Real (But Isn’t)

Love addiction and love-at-first-sight energy are both trauma-based strategies.

They’re ways to avoid true intimacy while staying caught in the feeling of love. They’re often rooted in childhood experiences of inconsistency, emotional distance, or longing.

When the people who were supposed to love us felt far away, we became wired to chase connection—and mistook that chase for love.

So when I met someone steady, calm, and kind… I felt confused.

Where was the spark? Where was the ache? Where was the rush?

What Changed Everything for Me

When I began releasing these energetic patterns from my field—through deep inner work and energy healing—something subtle but life-altering happened:

✨ I started to feel love not just in my head, but in my body.

✨ I stopped chasing intensity and started receiving presence.

✨ I realized the absence of chaos wasn’t emptiness—it was peace.

And with that peace came something I never had before: A love that felt calm. Warm. Deep. Real.

Not fantasy. Not a high. Not a hit of chemistry that fades. Just a love that keeps deepening the more I allow it.

If You’ve Been Craving the Spark, But Longing for Something Real…

You’re not broken. You may just be carrying energetic patterns that are keeping you hooked into the wrong kind of love.

Patterns that make you question the right thing when it finally arrives. Patterns that confuse intimacy with anxiety. Patterns that once protected you, but are now holding you back.

Ready to Release the Patterns Keeping You Hooked on the Wrong Kind of Love?

If you’re starting to realize that the “spark” you’ve been chasing is actually a trauma pattern…

And you’re ready to experience a love that feels safe, steady, and real—

My 1:1 energy healing sessions are here to support you.

Together, we’ll:

✨ Clear love addiction energy and trauma-based attraction patterns
✨ Rewire your nervous system to recognize calm, healthy love as exciting and safe
✨ Release the subconscious beliefs that make intensity feel like connection
✨ Help you finally open to the kind of partnership your soul has always longed for

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Because the love that feels peaceful, grounded, and mutual?
It’s not boring.
It’s home.