How To Stop Missing Your Ex

When we’re going through a breakup, the pain of missing our ex can feel overwhelming. It can consume our thoughts, leaving us wondering, "How do I stop missing them?" The urge to make that longing disappear can be so strong that we’ll do almost anything to try and stop it.

Resisting the emotions after a breakup keeps them around. 

But here’s the thing: trying to stop missing your ex outright can often make those feelings linger even longer.

Why We Miss Our Exes After a Breakup

It’s completely natural to miss someone who was once a big part of our lives. Whether the relationship was healthy or not, the emotional bond you shared is real, and breaking that connection doesn’t happen overnight. The brain often holds onto memories of what felt good, which can lead us to miss that comfort and familiarity, even if the relationship wasn’t good for us.

The Secret: Don’t Resist Missing Them

Surprisingly, the key to moving through the pain of missing an ex isn’t to resist it but to allow yourself to feel it. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out.

When we try to avoid or suppress emotions—especially the pain of missing someone—they tend to stay stuck within us. When you keep pushing away feelings of longing, sadness, or even anger, they don’t just disappear. Instead, they remain trapped in your body, lingering far longer than if you had let yourself fully experience them.

So, what should you do instead?

Give Yourself Permission to Miss Them

It’s important to acknowledge the pain of missing your ex. Give yourself permission to feel sad, hurt, or even angry. They were important to you, and it’s natural to grieve the loss of that connection. It’s OK to miss someone who once mattered so much.

This doesn’t mean wallowing in sadness forever, but allowing the feelings to surface so they can move through you. You may even find that once you stop resisting the emotions, they start to feel a little lighter.

When Missing Them Doesn’t Go Away

If you’ve been missing your ex for a long time and the pain hasn’t shifted, this may be a sign that the breakup is triggering deeper emotions from your past. Oftentimes, the loss of a significant relationship stirs up unresolved feelings from childhood or previous experiences—emotions that were never fully processed.

If you’ve struggled with emotional resistance in the past, chances are those suppressed feelings are now resurfacing. The breakup becomes the spark that brings these old wounds to light, making it harder to move on.

How to Release Suppressed Emotions

One of the most effective ways to move on and stop missing your ex is to release the suppressed emotional energy from the past. This is where techniques like energy healing can make a profound difference. By working to release those old, stuck energies, you can begin to free yourself from the pain that’s keeping you attached to the relationship.

Energy healing helps to clear out the emotional blocks that may be holding you back, allowing you to finally let go of your ex and heal. If you’re interested in learning more about this process, check out my 1:1 sessions for a deeper exploration into energy healing by tapping the button below.

Build a Support System and Find Joy Again

While you’re processing these emotions, it’s essential to lean on your support system—friends, family, or professionals who can offer emotional support. Having people to talk to and share your feelings with makes a huge difference in moving forward.

At the same time, it’s crucial to redirect your focus. Yes, allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up, but also make sure you’re shifting your energy toward things that bring you joy. This is how your brain learns that you don’t need your ex to feel happy—you’re capable of finding joy without them.

Whether it’s taking up a new hobby, spending time with friends, or engaging in activities that bring you peace, these actions signal to your brain that there is life beyond the relationship.

What to Do if You Still Feel Stuck

If you’ve tried everything—processing emotions, leaning on support, and shifting focus—and still feel stuck in the pain of missing your ex, it might be time to seek help. Sometimes, the emotional pain is so deeply rooted that additional guidance is needed to fully release it.

If you feel like you’ve hit a wall and can’t seem to move on, I’m here to assist. I can help you through the process and show you how energy healing can aid in letting go of that connection and finding peace.

Conclusion: The journey of moving on from an ex can be tough, but it’s absolutely possible. By allowing yourself to feel the emotions instead of resisting them, you can begin to release the pain and take steps toward healing. Give yourself permission to miss them, lean on your support system, and explore energy healing to clear old emotional wounds. Healing takes time, but with the right tools, you can find joy again—and perhaps even open the door to healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the future.

P.S.: I also offer remote energy healing sessions for $96 to help you release those old emotions and move on from your ex. Tap the link below for more details.