Are You Scared You’ll Have to Choose Between Chemistry and Safety?

Like… if you finally choose a love that’s healthy, you’ll have to settle—
for something that doesn’t feel exciting, passionate, or real?

This fear is incredibly common when we’re transitioning from toxic to healthy love.

And if you’ve had this thought before, you’re not crazy.
In fact, you’re not even wrong…

Because what many of us learned to call “chemistry”—
That intoxicating pull…
The butterflies…
The rollercoaster of “will they/won’t they”…

Wasn’t chemistry.
It was trauma.

When We’ve Been Wounded, Intensity Feels Like Love

If your body has learned to associate love with anxiety, chaos, or inconsistency—
then real safety can feel boring.
Or even wrong.

You might find yourself thinking:

“Where’s the spark?”
“Why doesn’t this person light me up?”
“Am I just not attracted to them?”

But here’s what’s really happening:

Your nervous system is scanning for familiarity.
Not what’s good for you.
And it confuses activation with attraction.

Healing the Chemistry That Hurts

That magnetic, addictive pull you’ve felt in past relationships?
It may have been the echo of early attachment wounds.
Unresolved grief.
Old pain disguised as passion.

But that’s not the only kind of chemistry that exists.

When we heal…

We retrain the body to recognize a different kind of love.
A secure love.
A calming love.
A love that allows you to feel safe and deeply connected.

One that doesn’t require the rollercoaster to feel real.

Ready to release what’s no longer serving you and come home to the love within you?

Get my free guided energy healing, Energetic Heart Reset—a powerful audio experience to help you clear stuck energy from the past and reconnect with your heart.