Why Instant Attraction Can Mean They’re the Wrong Person

You meet someone and the air shifts.

Your whole body lights up.

Your heart races. Your palms sweat. The conversation flows effortlessly. It feels electric, magnetic—like fate.

And you think:

“This must be special.”
“This must be love at first sight.”

But what if that rush isn’t love?

What if it’s something older, deeper—and rooted not in truth, but in trauma?

When Intensity Isn’t Intimacy

For years, I believed that instant chemistry was a sign from the universe.
That overwhelming connection meant destiny.
That the way someone made me feel at the beginning was proof that it was meant to be.

But over time—and through a lot of healing—I began to see something else:

That rush I felt?

It wasn’t love.

It was my abandonment wound lighting up like a flare.

The Energy of “Love at First Sight” Isn’t Always Love

It’s an energy I now recognize in myself and in my clients all the time.

It feels cosmic, electric, and intoxicating.

But it often bypasses true intimacy.
It creates a powerful emotional charge, but it’s not grounded in reality.

Instead, it’s often rooted in:

Abandonment wounds
The longing to be instantly chosen
A deep fear of being fully seen—so we seek to be rescued instead

The fantasy of “this is it” allows us to stay in the illusion, rather than taking the time to truly get to know someone.

Because when we carry this energy, we’re not actually craving connection.

We’re craving salvation.

What Real, Healthy Attraction Feels Like

It’s different.
It’s quieter.
It builds slowly, like a warm fire.

It doesn’t shock your nervous system or leave you spiraling after a first date.

✨ It feels safe, not chaotic.
✨ It feels curious, not obsessive.
✨ It invites openness, not urgency.

Real love unfolds. It reveals itself over time.

It’s not a high—it’s a homecoming.

What Helped Me Shift

When I began releasing the energies of love addiction and “love at first sight” from my field, I realized that I was finally open to being known—not just chosen.

I no longer needed the spark to prove someone saw me.
I started craving presence more than passion.

And slowly, I called in a connection that was deeply mutual, grounded, and real.

Are You Ready to Release the Energies That Keep You Hooked on the Wrong People?

In my 1:1 Energy Healing Sessions, we go beyond the mind and into your energetic body—

Releasing the magnetic pull of abandonment-driven chemistry
Healing the part of you that believes love has to feel like a high
Rewiring your nervous system to feel safe in calm, consistent love
Opening you up to a new kind of connection—one that actually lasts

Tap the button below to schedule a free consultation.

Let’s help you shift from fantasy to fulfillment—so real love can find you.