The loneliness that comes from being with an emotionally unavailable partner.

Introduction: Are you wondering if you’re in a relationship with someone emotionally unavailable? Your feelings know even when your mind doesn’t yet. Before you consciously register that you’re with someone emotionally unavailable, your emotions speak loud and clear. What emotions am I talking about? That’s what I’m talking about in today’s blog - how it feels to be with an emotionally unavailable partner.

Being in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner can be a lonely and confusing experience. The signs are often subtle, yet the emotional toll can be profound. This article explores the feelings of being with someone who’s not fully present and offers insights into healing and moving forward.

My Experience: When I was with my emotionally unavailable ex, before I knew he was emotionally unavailable, I was anxious all the time. I also felt really badly about myself, like I wasn’t good enough. For a while I was trying to figure out what the problem was, and eventually I thought maybe I was anxiously attached, and that was the issue. I then went about trying to fix and heal myself so I could feel okay in the relationship.

After a while of that not working, I realized high levels of anxiety with someone and feeling badly about yourself don’t always mean the problem is you having an anxious attachment. It could be triggered by being with an unavailable partner. If you feel like something’s not right, it’s not in your head. It’s usually true.

Recognizing an Emotionally Unavailable Partner: Let’s talk about what it feels like to be with an emotionally unavailable partner:

You’re always anxious because you don’t know how they feel about you.
You don’t feel important to them and your self-worth is dropping.
You feel like you don’t really know them. Very mysterious.
You feel like they could abandon you at any point.
You feel like something’s missing in the relationship but you don’t know what.
You have no idea what they’re thinking or feeling about important issues.
You’re always sad because you don’t feel appreciated.
You’re often jealous of other people in their life who seem to get more of their attention.
They bring out the worst in you.

The Emotional Toll: Even if we’re not conscious of it, most of us can tell the difference between how it feels to be with someone who’s not fully there and someone who’s all-in. When that’s the case, you need to leave. It’s not normal to feel that way in a relationship. In a healthy relationship, you know your partner cares about you and how they feel. They tell you how they feel and you can feel it.

Healing and Moving Forward: You’re worth being all-in for. You don’t have to settle for a relationship with someone who isn’t fully there. If we’re with an emotionally unavailable partner, we usually have some emotional unavailability of our own.

Ready to break the cycle of unavailable partners and find real, healthy love? I can help.

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